“A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.” – Author Unknown
How might a smile change the spirit of your program/classroom/home today?
How might your smile change one child’s perspective today?
How could your smile change your own spirit today?
Your smile is powerful – use it often and be known for the smiles you share with others.
Positive Identity is one of the 8 categories of strengths (Developmental Assets) that all children need to succeed. The Search Institute defines positive identity as “young people need to believe in their own self-worth and to feel that they have control over the things that happen to them.”
The characteristics listed under positive identity are:
1. Personal power. Young person feels he or she has control over “things that happen to me.”
2. Self-esteem. Young person reports having a high self-esteem.
3. Sense of purpose. Young person reports that “my life has a purpose.”
4. Positive view of personal future. Young person is optimistic about her or his personal future.
Researching positive identity today, I stumbled upon an article titled, “Helping Your Child Develop Self-Esteem” by the Child Development Institute.
It talked about the characteristics of children with high vs. low self-esteem. It mentioned strategies to build a child’s self-esteem, including my favorite method of generously giving specific praise when praise is due. I also liked how they connected the dots between healthy decision-making and high self-esteem.
They close the article with 10 additional steps you can take to help a child develop a positive self-image. Five of the ideas are on my personal and professional radar lists this month:
1. Encourage your children to develop hobbies and interests which give them pleasure and which they can pursue independently.
2. Let children settle their own disputes between siblings and friends alike.
3. Help your children develop “tease tolerance”
4. Help children learn to focus on their strengths by pointing out to them all the things they can do.
5. Laugh with your children and encourage them to laugh at themselves.
If you want to learn more about building developmental assets visit www.search-institute.org, where you can learn more about the research behind assets and discover many other resources to promot your journey to nurture healthy youth.
How are YOU building positive identity in your children and youth? Leave us a comment with your stories, or email us at ann(at)theassetedge(dot)net.Filed under Practical Ideas, Youth Development | Comments Off
* Family support * Positive family communication * Other adult relationships * Caring neighborhood * Caring school climate * Parent involvement in schooling * Community values youth * Youth as resources * Service to others * Safety * Family boundaries * School boundaries * Neighborhood boundaries * Adult role models * Positive peer influence * High expectations * Creative activities * Youth programs * Religious community * Time at home * Achievement motivation * School engagement * Homework * Bonding to school * Reading for pleasure * Caring * Equality and social justice * Integrity * Honesty * Responsibility * Restraint * Planning and decision making * Interpersonal competence * Cultural competence * Resistance skills * Peaceful conflict resolution * Personal power * Self-esteem * Sense of purpose * Positive view of personal future *
You can see more about the 40 assets at www.search-institute.org. The research on these building blocks for youth is great – take time to look at it. And print a copy of the assets to post on your refigerator or desk!Filed under Youth Development | Comments Off
Look ahead at your week and think about how you could intentionally promote healthy children and youth. Ask yourself questions like:
- How can I empower people to use their talents and resources wisely this week?
- How can I promote social competencies (relationship skills) this week?
- How can I set boundaries and expectations for children/youth this week?
Then take time to review your day or your week, and ask broad questions, such as:
- How have I encouraged children to use their time constructively?
- How have helped to develop someone’s sense of positive identity?
- Have I taken the opportunity to model and teach positive values?
Taking time to be intentional with the children and youth around you will make a big impact on who they grow up to be!Filed under Empowering Youth, Practical Ideas, Youth Development | Comments Off
“Engaging young people in productive service can build self-esteem and self-discipline, develop practical skills, establish bonds of community, inculcate a sense of civic responsibility and provide something valuable to others.”
“What You Can Do For Your Country,” report of the Commission on National & Community ServiceFiled under Quotes, Service-Learning, Youth Development | Comments Off
“To be nobody but yourself in a world that’s doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight . . . never stop fighting.” – e.e. cummingsFiled under Quotes, Self Care, Youth Development | Comments Off
Have you ever pondered the depth and breadth of recreation for children? I met a friend this summer, LaDonna, who is a recreational specialist. She shared 13 different aspects of recreation – some based on theory, and some from her own experience with youth. Young people need opportunities to explore each of these aspects of life – how can you integrate the dimensions into your programming? How can you encourage young people to explore these avenues in their free time?
- alternative games
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All Work and No Play: Why Your Kids Are More Anxious, Depressed
For more than fifty years, children’s free play time has been continually declining, and it’s keeping them from turning into confident adults
What are your memories of playing as a child? Some of us will remember hide and seek, house, tag, and red rover red rover. Others may recall arguing about rules in kickball or stick ball or taking turns at jump rope, or creating imaginary worlds with our dolls, building forts, putting on plays, or dressing-up. From long summer days to a few precious after-school hours, kid-organized play may have filled much of your free time. But what about your children? Are their opportunities for play the same as yours were? Most likely not.
Play time is in short supply for children these days and the lifelong consequences for developing children can be more serious than many people realize.Creative Play, Youth Development | Comments Off
My friend Kevin and his 4.5 year old daughter Caroline created their own set of family rules.
1. Always tell the truth
2. Do what your parents and people responsible for your care ask
3. Don’t talk to strangers, but it’s OK to say “hello” to everyone
4. Be nice to Jack
5. Keep practicing at your activities to get better
6. Have fun, try hard and help your teammates
7. No stinky tooties!
8. You get what you get and you don’t pitch a fit
9. You need to try new things at least once
10. Always be polite
They numbered them, and memorized them together (they both have amazing memories!). So if they are struggling with a hard day at soccer practice, Kevin can whisper to Caroline, “Think about #6, and she’ll remember to try hard, do her best and help her teammates.
I love that they wrote the rules together! I love that there’s a simplicity and a silliness with the rules. And I love their quest to be a family of character. You can already see the impact their purposeful choices have had on her character, and she’s growing into a beautiful young girl!
What are your family or classroom rules? How did you create your rules? How could you engage young people in crafting rules?Filed under Empowering Youth, Practical Ideas, Self Care, Youth Development | Comments Off
I love the idea of giving gifts that make a difference. So of course I loved this list of charitable giving ideas for people that are shopping for women and girls. Oh, and I love their picture too – it’s so full of joy! If you’re still shopping for Christmas and birthday gifts, check out their links to several nonprofit organizations where you can buy beautiful gifts!
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By Derek Peterson
The Christmas season is NOT about the gifts of the three wise men, but, instead, it is about the gift of “beholding” the child in the manger. It was their journey to meet with the child, to view the child, to respect the child, and to ultimately lift the child up, that was the GIFT of Christmas.
This could be the model for our Asset-Building Christmas.
Let’s focus less on the material “assets” during the holiday season.
Instead, let’s journey to “behold” the youth in our families, schools, and neighborhoods. Let’s see the promise of the children among us. Let’s bask in glory of each of them.
And, rather than giving them treasures of gold, frankincense and myyrh, let’s give them something more valuable – OUR TIME.
From the time we give our children and youth, let’s pull the treasures out of each of them, and help them spread their treasures out, far and wide, among the people of the world.
Now, that would be an asset-building Christmas!
International Child/Youth Advocate
“If afterschool programs are to achieve their true potential, they must become known as important places of learning – learning that excites young people in the building of new skills, the discovery of new interests, and opportunities to achieve a sense of mastery. The goal of the Learning in Afterschool (LIA) project is to position afterschool programs as places for learning. They are promoting five core learning principles that should define afterschool programs. Learning in afterschool should be Active, Collaborative, Meaningful, Geared for Mastery, and Expand Horizons. These learning principles are strongly supported by recent brain research and the growing science of learning. ”
Read more about each of these principles at the Learning in Afterschool website, http://www.learninginafterschool.org/position.htm. You will also find tons of research there about afterschool learning environments!Filed under Educational Resources, Science Fun, Youth Development | Comments Off
It seems like such a simple thing but to say “thank you” can mean so much.
On November 3, 2011, communities, organizations, and caring people from around the globe are joining together for another international day of celebrating and honoring youth workers.
How can you to join the efforts in this third annual Thank A Youth Worker Day (TAYWD)?
Visit www.thankayouthworkerday.org and the Thank a Youth Worker Page on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/TAYWD) for a collection of resources and tips, and forward this TAYWD email to others in your community and networks who would be in a position to celebrate youth workers.
THANKS to you for taking time to nurture, thank, and celebrate people around you!
Ann & SusanFiled under Self Care, Youth Development | Comments Off
I founded and directed the volunteer program at a Harpeth Hall School, where I challenged girls to find a way to share their time and talents to help create a stronger community. We promoted volunteerism as a way for personal growth, social development, growing friendships, and finding careers. Serving others is a huge way for students to learn and grow.
But it’s also a great way for adults to seek professional opportunities. That’s great news in this economy! If you have friends that are struggling in the job market, or if you are working with young people to document their service work on their resume, then take time to read this short and powerful article.
Volunteering May Help Your Career More Than You Think